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Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

Post: #1
08-09-2012, 10:33 PM
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Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

I'm just curious to see if your own mental health issues affect whether or not you want to have children in the future? Or if you already have children, do you wonder if they will have similar mental health struggles?



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08-10-2012, 12:46 PM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

We know that mental illness can be inherited. If you have a family history of mental illness you will be genetically predisposed to mental illness. This genetic weak link can be exposed when our genes interact with the environment - stress etc.

Deciding whether to have children if you have mental health problems depends on how serious your condition is, how well you manage it and whether it will negatively affect your child.



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08-12-2012, 01:16 AM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?


(08-10-2012 12:46 PM)shaun Wrote:  We know that mental illness can be inherited. If you have a family history of mental illness you will be genetically predisposed to mental illness. This genetic weak link can be exposed when our genes interact with the environment - stress etc.

Deciding whether to have children if you have mental health problems depends on how serious your condition is, how well you manage it and whether it will negatively affect your child.

For me, my mental health does play a certain role in my not wanting to have children. I cannot stomach the idea of passing on any of my issues to another person. Not to say, nobody with mental health issues should have children. I do not believe that in the least. It is just how I feel for my personal situation. However, that isn't the only reason I don't want children either.




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08-12-2012, 10:42 AM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

Children are more stress, responsibility and money. The extra stress can worsen your mental health problems, especially women, with their vulnerability to post-natal depression. I also don't think you should have children to make yourself feel better, that is selfish.



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08-12-2012, 08:25 PM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

(08-12-2012 10:42 AM)shaun Wrote:  Children are more stress, responsibility and money. The extra stress can worsen your mental health problems, especially women, with their vulnerability to post-natal depression. I also don't think you should have children to make yourself feel better, that is selfish.


Truthfully, if someone only wants to have children to make themselves feel better, it isn't going to work. People should only have children because they genuinely want to bring and raise a child in this world. If they aren't mentally prepared enough to deal with it, I don't think it is right to have children.



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08-15-2012, 02:49 PM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

Yep, I see people who have children because they have something missing. They are not happy with their lives and they think raising a child will make it better. More often than not this isn't the case, raising a child will increase your stress even more.



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08-19-2012, 08:12 PM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

There is a risk of passing it on, but it's all about how you handle it. Because you know you have problems, you could teach your children better to AVOID having those issues. You can watch for the signs because you already know them and you can pass on your techniques for dealing with them early on to help them instead of them struggling on their own.



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08-20-2012, 06:24 PM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

I completely understand your point. I think you have to have a very strong handle on your mental health situation though, in order to be able to closely help and monitor anyone else going through it. I didn't want children if the first place, but I feel much more strongly after going through these past few years with depression and anxiety. I struggle to just take care of myself sometimes, so I know I wouldn't fully be able to support and be responsible for another person. I would just feel very guilty to watch someone else go through what I did and know my genes did this to them. But I already know I'm a highly-sensitive person.



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12-07-2012, 01:18 AM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

These are things that I worry about now...now that I have 2 wonderful children and my husband has been diagnosed as bipolar. I see little trends in my son that make me worry...and my hubby's psych doctor has said that bipolar is hereditary. But I can't worry about that at this point. I just have to make sure that my son feels loved, secure and give him the tools he needs to cope with life and hope that he doesn't wind up in the same bucket as my now heavily medicated husband.



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12-07-2012, 05:41 PM
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RE: Does having mental health issues make you consider whether to have children?

(12-07-2012 01:18 AM)SandraP Wrote:  These are things that I worry about now...now that I have 2 wonderful children and my husband has been diagnosed as bipolar. I see little trends in my son that make me worry...and my hubby's psych doctor has said that bipolar is hereditary. But I can't worry about that at this point. I just have to make sure that my son feels loved, secure and give him the tools he needs to cope with life and hope that he doesn't wind up in the same bucket as my now heavily medicated husband.

I would say at least now that you've had to deal with your husbands mental health issues, you now know what behaviors to look for in your children. Therefore, you are probably more well-equipped to handle the situation if it does worsen. Regardless, you sound like a pretty incredible parent.



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