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Face your fear

Post: #1
07-06-2012, 11:57 AM
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Face your fear

Ultimately, the only way to overcome your social anxiety is to face your fear. Staying safe and avoiding the situation will only make it worse. You need exposure and this should be done gradually in order to desensitize yourself from the irrational phobia.



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Post: #2
08-12-2012, 01:24 AM
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(07-06-2012 11:57 AM)shaun Wrote:  Ultimately, the only way to overcome your social anxiety is to face your fear. Staying safe and avoiding the situation will only make it worse. You need exposure and this should be done gradually in order to desensitize yourself from the irrational phobia.


This is absolutely correct 100%. However, I think you need to really force yourself to do the things you want to do and the types of activities that will enhance your quality of life. Forcing yourself to do things that really don't matter or mean very much to you, I don't think is going to help your overall outlook. For example, I want to have a fulfilling social life, yet I often dismiss invitations. But when I do force myself to go, I usually do have a good time and it reminds me the initial anxiety doesn't make it worth not going. I hope that made sense.



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Post: #3
08-12-2012, 11:00 AM
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It depends you avoid the less important activities because of your social anxiety. You should do the activity if you are avoiding it because of your anxiety, no matter how small and trial the activity is. Going to the shops can be a huge task for some people. Going to the shops to buy a newspaper may not improve your quality of life but it will help you overcome SA.



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08-12-2012, 08:21 PM
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shaun dateline='(2012/8/12, 07:00 AM_DE_' Wrote:  It depends you avoid the less important activities because of your social anxiety. You should do the activity if you are avoiding it because of your anxiety, no matter how small and trial the activity is. Going to the shops can be a huge task for some people. Going to the shops to buy a newspaper may not improve your quality of life but it will help you overcome SA.


I agree with that completely. I meant for example, just forcing yourself to hang out with a group of people you don't even particularly like or enjoy the company of, just because it is a social activity. I think sometimes we guilt ourselves into doing stuff just for the sake of having an exposure, rather than choosing the things that really matter. Activities like going to the store are practical so I think that is important.



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Post: #5
08-14-2012, 12:20 PM
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I see your point but I think any exposure is better than no exposure, even if you don't enjoy the company of the people you are socializing with, it's still experience which will help you confront your irrational fear of social situations. You may not be particularly interested in starting a conversation with your local shopkeeper but it will aid your progress.



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Post: #6
10-08-2012, 04:50 AM
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I always find that forcing myself to face social phobias does work for me, at times. I should say more times than not. Sometimes I will feel better about making myself do something I fear, other times I wish I had never gone out. But it does make me feel better as a person in the long run. :)



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Post: #7
10-10-2012, 07:58 AM
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I believe facing your fear is the best way to overcome social anxiety but I also realise how this is much easier said than done. I only have experiences from this type of condition through a friend and seeing how she sometimes suffers helps me understand that she isn't always in the right frame of mind to face her fear. She is making good progress though and more often than not she can be coaxed out, even if it is to the shop at the end of our street.



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Post: #8
11-11-2012, 07:35 PM
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It's true that facing your fear is the best way to over come it. But, for some this isn't so easy because trying to face this fear can lead to other problems, including making themselves physically ill. Sometimes the best course of action is to take it slowly step by step. If you need help of a therapist to do this, then seek them out. I do agree that just staying home and not facing the fear won't make it go away, its only avoiding the problem at hand.



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Post: #9
12-29-2012, 02:12 AM
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I agree and you should see a therapist or speak to your doctor if your anxiety is really affecting your quality of life. However, I also know how daunting it can be to even book an appointment to talk to someone about it. But I do strongly advise it because it significantly helped me. I was still able to go out and pretend to be fine, but I was really struggling internally. But they can help give you the tools you need to make exposures much more tolerable.



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Post: #10
08-13-2013, 05:40 PM
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I will not drive alone due to my anxiety. I will only drive when my husband is with me or someone else that I feel safe with. I will not stay at home alone either because I am so scared of the anxiety. Even thinking about doing these things alone..or being alone in general makes me panicky. My husband and I live with my cousin and he is here most of the time, but we also live on my grandmothers land along with my parents and brother and my uncle. So..someone is thankfully always around and if they are not I am told so I can make arrangements to go to my mother in laws home. As you can imagine it is very frustrating for me and my husband and other family members but they never complain about it. In fact they see it as normal now I believe.

I want so bad to get better and I know that in order to do so I have to face my fears, but I just can not. I need a good therapist but we live in a rural area so that is next to impossible. Plus my husband would be unable to take me to see a therapist because he works. I would love it if I could have a therapist come to my home but I know that is unheard of. I just want to be normal. :(



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