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What do you consider to be Traumatic?

Post: #1
06-02-2012, 02:37 AM
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What do you consider to be Traumatic?

Hello,
Do you think that a spouse having a affair can cause one to have PTSD? Is that serious enough or does that not count?



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Post: #2
06-04-2012, 12:26 PM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

Hello MelodyLove - I replied in your other thread also but I just wanted to let you know that the symptoms you are suffering could be PTSD. What is traumatic is down to the individual but you have been cheated on by the one person you trust most in the world - you don't just get over something like that. Seek help and don't tell yourself that what you have been through is not traumatic enough! I wish you strength and I hope things improve for you.



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Post: #3
06-06-2012, 12:20 AM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

It definitely can be. Given how traumatized you appear in your own thread, I would say that yes, you're still suffering from PSTD and I highly recommend you talk to someone about it. You're not getting any better and it's effecting you on a daily basis. Whether it comes with a label like PSTD or not, it's obviously a huge deal to you and isn't going to go away on its own.



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Post: #4
07-03-2012, 05:09 PM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

‚ÄčI couldn't locate your other post so I don't know exactly what the situation is or what you've been experiencing.

Some information of PTSD
PTSD can start after any traumatic event. Typically these events are when we are in danger (our life is threatened) or when we see other people dying or being injured. Common examples of trauma include: military combat, natural or man-made disasters or being diagnosed with a life-threatening illness.

Normal reactions to this kind of trauma include feeling depressed, anxious, guilty, grief-stricken and angry. Most people, given enough time, can get over the experience without needing help. However, sometimes it can start a change reaction that can last many months or years - this is PTSD.

In addition to the normal reactions, people with PTSD often exhibit flashbacks or nightmares, avoidance of any reminders of the situation, emotional numbing and constantly being 'on guard' (jumpy). This can be extremely debilitating.

PTSD doesn't always start immediately, it can occur after several weeks or months of the event.

Some information on ASD:
I think it is more likely that you could have the newer and lesser known, Acute Stress Disorder (ASD).

ASD also occurs due to exposure to trauma but starts much more quickly than PTSD and also ends sooner.

ASD is caused by exposure to trauma - an extreme stressor. The stressor is a trauma that the person has lived through or witnessed and responded with intense fear/helplessness. A person with ASD also often experiences symptoms such as being in a daze, feeling as though their thoughts and actions are not theirs and sometimes dissociative amnesia.

People with ASD often think they have greater responsibility for the event and its consequences than they actually do.

They are also more likely to experience symptoms of depression.

ASD when not treated can lead to PTSD.

My thoughts:
I think that a spouse having an affair could be constitute as a trauma. However, I think it's more likely that you have ASD than PTSD. When comparing the two, ASD occurs almost immediately after the trauma and does not last as long. PTSD is farther-reaching and may last years.



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Post: #5
07-08-2012, 11:40 AM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

Absolutely, a cheating spouse can be extremely traumatic, it can shatter lives. I believe some people are genetically predisposed to suffer from mental illness, traumatic events like discovering an affair could easily trigger a mental illness like PTSD in these people with a genetic weak link.



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Post: #6
08-07-2012, 01:46 AM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

I think one difficult event (like an affair) can trigger problems that might be excessive in relation to the affair, but perhaps the affair was just the 'straw that broke the camel's back' and actually the PTSD is a result of an accumulation of life events, sometimes over the course of many years. I had PTSD 2 weeks after I graduated from college many, many years ago. It took almost 10 years to get over it, but at the end of the day, it was due to an unstable childhood which obviously occurred many years before college graduation.



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Post: #7
08-07-2012, 11:19 AM
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I disagree, I think an affair would be enough to trigger an episode of mental illness in some people, ultimately it depends on the person. An affair would significantly increase stress and make you feel depressed. Big events which shatter the equilibirum can trigger mental health conditions like PTSD.



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Post: #8
09-07-2012, 03:40 PM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

I am suffering from PTSD from a number of different situations, and my partner's affair was one of them. I agree with the "straw that broke the camel's back" assessment, at least in my case. Prior to even meeting this particular partner I had already had numerous traumatic events occur in my life. I spent years in therapy working on improving my life before meeting him, and then I was crushed again by his behavior toward me and the things he did behind my back.



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Post: #9
09-16-2012, 04:04 PM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

(09-07-2012 03:40 PM)DanicaPerry Wrote:  I am suffering from PTSD from a number of different situations, and my partner's affair was one of them. I agree with the "straw that broke the camel's back" assessment, at least in my case. Prior to even meeting this particular partner I had already had numerous traumatic events occur in my life. I spent years in therapy working on improving my life before meeting him, and then I was crushed again by his behavior toward me and the things he did behind my back.

Thank you for sharing your story. I think you have proven what many have been saying and what I believe, yes PTSD can be caused by what many would consider a personal crisis, and might not always lead to something so earth shattering. But no two people are alike and we could already be dealing with stuff in our personal lives, and find out about the affair which pushes us over the edge completely. I wish you all the best, and hope you are getting better. Hang in there things will work out.




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Post: #10
09-25-2012, 01:32 PM
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RE: What do you consider to be Traumatic?

I agree that what classes as traumatic is very much an individual thing. Finding out a partner has cheated is a gross abuse of trust and can leave the injured party feeling hurt, low in confidence and generally unloved. It is no easy thing getting over a betrayal - and I talk from experience unfortunately.



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