I find it's a little easier to be on a potty schedule, meal schedule and to try to be as relaxed as I can when it's potty time. I take Metamucil twice a day evening and morning. In the morning after all of my morning routine chores are done, the kiddie is off to school and the hubby is asleep, I go in the bathroom and run the shower water, let the bathroom get steamy like a nice sauna and try to potty. In the evening, after preparing dinner and getting all of my work shift things done. (I have to prepare earlier for work even though I don't work until much later, such as paper work ect.) I go to the potty again.
I've been doing this for a couple of months now and it really helps. There are some days where I just can't "go" but most days now, especially in the morning, I can feel it in my stomach that I am going to go. I have less bloating, gas and pain. I still hurt a little from straining and using a little witchhazel on the outside helps with that.